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We live in times of rapid change. Coping with the pressure presents a growing challenge for more and more people. The question is - where to look for guidance, support, inspiration? When external and internal structures and points of reference crumble, we have a choice of either being dragged down with those dysfunctional beliefs based on past experiences, or to seek those inner creative resources which can inspire authentic and fruitful action. In these times we need to connect with what's most alive in us - our internal truth.This personal transformation can then resonate with the bigger changes that are occurring with and through a lot of people (yes, you are not alone), which are looking for new expressions and venues.C Remember - change is a common human need, as well as a need for safety, connection, belonging, support, etc.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to
make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence
automatically liberates others."
Marianne Williamson

Intention, attention, dedication - the three practices of healing

Intention is a seed of change. It's born from an experience, that brought something new, something different into your awareness; something that you want now, since you got a taste of it, something that you consider to be good to have..

 The wanted thing is outside of your "normal" reach, it's a goal, it exists as a potential, in the future - a desired possibility that you do not have. Yet.

The intention you have. Intention can stand behind your actions; behind your thoughts (you can choose which thoughts to think, according to your intention), behind your words.

You act with intention, and then receive feedback. From the feedback you'll know if you are moving in the right direction according to your intention, or you are off track.

Off track - then you can try again, with the same intention. Look for choices. Choices of direction, actions, words... You might not have many, yet you can put your intention into your doings, and it will start clearing your path for you.

There is a saying "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions". Let that not make you loose your good intentions, when you'll find yourself at a dead end, in places or states unwanted, in Hell. Your good intention will help you develop qualities that you'll need to overcome the obstacle.

So, if you find yourself in hell - return to your intention, examine it, see if it is still good - and keep going.

PSYCHO-SOMATIC WORK
is the work on body tensions in conjunction with the unresolved feelings associated with those tension. We use muscle tension to suppress feelings when we don't have knowledge how, or time, or safe environment to process our emotional reactions in overwhelming situations. With time those tensions become a habitual pattern, a part of our identity, a "safe" known place where we can hide, where we can hold feelings we "don't like". The downside is that those hidden patterns of trauma show up again and again when triggered. The work I offer helps to uncover the unprocessed trauma and release the build-up around it gently and with presence. I use Rosen Method bodywork, which is light touch and stretching, and lots of listening with my hands. In the session, feelings, images, sensations arise into conscious awareness, and we process them through deep listening, guided visualization, conscious dreaming, feedback, etc.
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WAKING THE TIGER. HEALING TRAUMA. By Peter Levine

 I’m very enthusiastic about this book; I want everybody to read it to get educated about trauma inflicted blocks and processes, and how to deal with it on the personal level.

In this book Peter Levine describes mechanisms of forming a trauma, living with it, and discharging the energy of trauma.

Humans have 3 parts to their brain – reptilian (the oldest, holding the basic survival responses), limbic (mammal) and neocortex (capable of the rational thinking). In life threatening situations reptilian brain initiates the fight/flight response, flooding the organism with energy and excitement enough to run or fight for its life.  Human emotions corresponding with those states are fear (flight) and rage (fight).

If the power of the threat is greater than the power of the organism responding with fight/flight, then nature came up with the next level of protection – freeze response. Prey about to be seized by a predator “drops dead” ; either the predator will be confused and stop the chase, or the prey will not feel a thing while being killed – freeze response makes organism numb. Nature has mercy that way, allowing animals to die easily.

In nature, if the animal escapes death, it goes thru the process of discharging the powerful fight/flight or freeze energy by shaking, thrashing, moving the body (running). It then returns to a relaxed state, flowing easily from relaxation to alertness, orienting itself in the ever changing environment.

Not so with humans. While in danger, our reptilian brain has immediate power over our nervous system, bringing about fight/flight/freeze responses. But then, when we need to discharge that energy, neocortex kicks in discharge (now that the immediate danger is gone), with its need to find a rational, socially acceptable behavior. It has power to suppress the process of discharge, and then the energetic structure of freeze becomes a permanent fixture of human nervous system – a trauma.

Often trauma is reinforced by repetition of overpowering life threatening actions/circumstances, without escape rout and/or any support in dealing with it.

Traumatic freezing is a highly aroused/excited state of nervous system in conjunction with inability to feel, move or function adequately; it consumes energy otherwise used by the organism for orientation and learning.

When the freeze state unwinds naturally, the organism goes thru the process in reverse: the way out of freeze zone is thru the fight/flight zone, with its high excitement and emotions of fear and/or rage (anger).  Humans culturally conditioned to suppress strong feelings of fear and anger thru neocortex; they internalize those feelings, directing them often at themselves.

Symptoms of trauma:

Depression

Inability to feel

Avoidance behaviors

Hyper arousal

Constriction

Dissociation (including denial)

Feeling of helplessness

Hypervigilance

Hyperactivity

Exaggerated emotional and startle response

Abrupt mood swings – rage reactions, temper tantrums, shame

Reduced ability to deal with stress

Difficulty sleeping, nightmares

Panic attacks, anxiety, phobias

Mental ”blankness”  or “spacyness”

Extreme sensitivity to light or sounds

Attraction to danger

Frequent crying

Exaggerated or diminished sexual activity

Amnesia and forgetfulness

Inability to love, nurture or bond

Fear of dying or going crazy

Excessive shyness

Muted or diminished emotional responses

Inability to commit

Chronic fatigue, low energy

Immune system disorders, endocrine and psycho-somatic illnesses

Feelings of detachment, alienation, isolation – “living dead”

Diminished interest in life

Educating our rational brain about these processes is of tremendous value, because it shifts us from being a victim of overwhelming feelings and emotions, from thinking that something is deeply wrong with us, into a conscious participant /witness of a powerful natural process.

Recently a client while being on my massage table said: "I'm falling in love with your hands. You have a gift". But really what was happening - she was getting in touch with the aliveness and loveliness of being in the body. We are so accustomed to react to somebody outside ourselves, forgetting that the capacity to love is internal. Our senses are trained to pay attention to our external environment, so our thoughts are mostly about things external to ourselves; and that makes processing of our feelings and reactions more difficult.